i love seeing elderly women who clearly have reached that point where they don’t care about how they’re perceived anymore and are fully engaged with life on their own terms. idk that sounds deep but im just really happy to see this woman on the train rn with pink streaks in her hair wearing bright green new balance sneakers and reading a stephen king novel with a book of crosswords sticking out of her suitcase. i feel like ideally at some point in old age women return to the freedom and unselfconsciousness of pre-pubescent girlhood
one time i went on a date with this guy who kept tucking my hair behind my ear and i kept untucking it but like 5 minutes later he would reach out and do it again and eventually i just ducked away when he tried and then the next day he tweeted about girls not appreciating a gentleman and i’m pretty sure it was about me
Maybe women would take more caution of how we dress and act in public to stop ourselves from being sexually harassed and abused if it actually worked for women from conservative or Islamic countries, where women are covered from head to toe and extremely cautious of how they behave in public… yet they are victimized at higher rates than any other place in the world. so maybe its not a modesty issue, maybe the only people at fault are sexual offenders
One thing I’ve learned in life, if you act really self-assured and confident you can pretty much get away with anything.
For example, I’ve watched someone walk on to a plane with no passport. Just walked right on.
Once walked out of a dude’s house with a pair of his pants slung over my shoulder. Did all the usual eye-contact, saying-goodbye movements and noises, just… while stealing his pants. He did not notice.
I told my English teacher that she graded my final paper(I did not turn one in) and that she told me it was well written. She scrambled 3 days trying to find the nonexistent paper, then apologized to me for losing it and gave me a 96%. Confidence is key
my dad’s mate just walked out of a shop with a canoe and didn’t get questioned
Humans are like bees: if they sense you’re an intruder all hell will break loose, but if you get inside the hive they just assume you belong there. Be confident.
Bee confident
This is funny but also true, and a huge tip when traveling. Act like you belong, and you won’t be bothered like other tourists might. Especially on public transportation… do your research ahead of time and look like a disinterested commuter and you’ll blend right in.
Fun Fact about Bees: they use pheromones to communicate and the pheromone to signal ALARMisthe same chemical that makes bananas smell like bananas so if you eat a banana and then breathe on a beehive you will regret it and this seemed relevant when i started writing it
“I was born several centuries too early. I don’t look enslaved. I dress in men’s clothes not only because they are more practical, but because my outfit tells men “I am your equal”. In our masculine world, suits, hats and short hair are symbols of freedom. I like to exteriorise my ideas, to wear them the way a nun wears her religious beliefs. We live in a world where short-haired suit-wearers have all the freedom, all the power, well, then! I too shall wear suits and have short hair.”
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Written in the newspaper La Suffragiste in January 1912 by Madeleine Pelletier, first female psychiatrist in France. She advocated female celibacy as a weapon of liberation “so women will realise that the ties that bind them to men are artificial and they are free to untie them”; she also wrote “I will only wear outfits that show my cleavage on the day men start wearing a new sort of trousers that shows their…” She died in 1939 in an insane asylum, where she was committed after practising an abortion on a 13-year-old girl raped by her brother. She was denounced to the police by said brother, but being declared insane at least spared her the guillotine, the usual sanction for abortionists.
